Retrospections

What a year i would say, with a sigh and unstoppable eagerness to the future. Gotten caught by numerous vexation and quagmire, the last day of 2025 is passing by finally. It is much harder for me to summarize the facts happened to me than i thought it would be when retrospecting the last hundreds days. Failures? Yes indeed. Accomplishments? Could barely note nothing actually. So all i could do is to show salution to the buddy who successfully survived - you have rocked well this year jarvis. And fuck you life. You think you could beat me? Go and fuck yourself as it won’t happen, never.

Okay, the emotional one should say goodbye, and get another relentless guy here.

Mini Habits

Let us switch the mind to a brand new concept - mini habits. Talking about habits, there are two things which should be considered as the most important parts from my personal perspective.

• The first one is - A THOUGHT IS WORTHLESS WITHOUT THE EFFORT TO REALIZE IT.
• Another one is RATHER THAN WORRYING ABOUT THE TIME TO BUILD A HABIT, COMMIT TO MAKING IT A PERMANENT PART OF YOUR LIFE.

Although, building a lifelong habit is still an extremely challenging work, as nobody could name how long will it take to build the habit. Uncertainties introduced more complexities. So here it is, let us talking about mini habit and how it will make kinda situations solvable. Skip the academic part of that concept for now, we can jump back to it later. Now let us see the procedures of building mini habits.

All You Need Is This Eight Moves

This is the most valuable part of the concept about mini habit. I highly recommand you to fetch a pencil/tips with you and follow the steps below.

First Step: Define the mini habits/plans which really fits you.

List the habits you want to have when they come into your brain, the important ones will be came out immediately. And there will be a lot of habits which you want to build, but believe me, it is better to build less than 3/4 habits at the same time. Image the probabilities that you could finish your plan in the toughest situation - back home after work with a extausted body and mind. Zero? That means the plan is too damn big, you should not have a huge plan as a mini goal, so divide it into unbelievable small steps, like if you want to train your body and do 20 pushups every day. But in the worst situation, you can not beat your tired body to finish it, so let us change it to do 1 pushup. After decrease the amount of training, it seems like you can finish it easier.

• Rocking in the rocks. Do not image the most relaxed scenario, the toughest situations are the most challenging part when building a new & good habit.
• Accept the small plan in the way accepting the big ones. If you still can not touch your goal, that means the plan is still too big, maybe we can still downsize it - like lie down on the floor once every day. When it is small enough, you will find it really easy to keep it up. Because we have already tricked the brain to start, so it will not cost much willpower. And you have to accept the small plan as you accept the big dreams, you should feel proud of yourself when finishing them.
• Easy to overachieve. When you start put efforts upon the mini plans, that means you will have more posibilities to overachieve the goal. As we already said, the plans are too freakiing small, it will not take too long to finish them. Once you touch the target, it won’t be hard to convience yourself to perform better and exceed the target.
• Review your mini plans. Now you have your own mini plans, and review it before you put any effort on it. Is it hilariously small? Good for you if it is.
• REMEMBER TO TICK YOUR PLANS ON THE CALANDER! It is important, you can follow your calander to make sure not to leave something back. The goal of having mini plans is finish them EVERYDAY, the success rate should be 100%, not 99% or 98%. The mini plan is small and easy enough, and also more harmful than the big ones when you did not finish them on time. If you failed on a mini plan/habit, you will not have the feeling of being successful, and success is really important for self-efficacy.

Second: Dig the further/inner meaning behind the plans/habits.

For many people, they feel tough while making efforts into the things they wish to do. For example, somebody want to exercise and train their body however they find difficult to put real effort on it. The key is, they never dig into their heart and ask about why they wish to build kinda habits. Identify the source of the wishes could help you a lot when you try to make accomplishments.

Using WHY-Drills.

When you wish to do something, ask yourself why you have that kinds of wishes. Dig as deep as you can to find out the main reason and desires: It is like someone likes writing, and he is yearn to build a habit as writing everyday, and the drills could be like:

• Why do you want to do that?
• As i like writing.
• Why do you like writing?
• I want to record the feelings, experiences, skills and certain moments that matters to me.
• Okay, but why?
• They play important roles in my life and are unforgettable memories to me. I could feel the similar feelings when retrospecting them. What’s more, i could even share them to people.
• Magnificent, but why do you want to do that?
• Because it makes me feel alive and worthy to this world. And also i could gain some writing skills and practice different languages. After those questions, you know exactly why you want to have some certain habits. It will work well if they are healthy and you could benefit from them. But sometimes you might find things are different, like this: For some reason, you want to get up earlier in the morning, and using the drills below:
• Why do you want to get up earlier?
• As other people do that
• Who does that and why it matters?
• Those who are successful and famous. If i do that, maybe i would be successful, at least it will make me looks like a famous successful person. And maybe that is not a good reason to keep that kind of hanit. You should find the essence of your wish and what really benefits yourself.

Third Step: Define the basis

The third step is define the way how you gonna put efforts on your habits. What’s more, you need to add then in your calendar. And notice: the habits are so tiny that it shouldn’t depend on a certain time or